No mother will be able to stay with her baby 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Furthermore, if you are going to work soon, a babysitter is an absolute necessity.
I'm staying at home. Why do I need a babysitter?
After giving birth, it is important to make time for yourself. These are not just doctor's appointments and restorative procedures. It is critical to provide psychological relief: relax, walk, and do enjoyable activities.
The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists believes that a mother requires special care for the year following the birth of a child [1].
It's ideal if you have friends or family who are willing to help out on occasion. However, it is best to plan on taking regular breaks.
Will the baby forget about me if they get used to the babysitter?
You shouldn't be afraid of this. Research indicates that a newborn can form bonds to various people. A close bond with the nanny does not, therefore, in any way compromise the relationship with the mother [2].
When you have spare time, hold your baby, play with them, and soothe them when they are too excited. Together, all of this creates a powerful emotional bond. Yes, your nanny may be very special to the baby at the same time. But what is wrong with him feeling safe and loved even when you're not around? There is no such thing as too much love!
How can I find a babysitter?
The safest way is to get advice from people you trust, like family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, or a pediatrician or obstetrician. If that doesn't help, it makes sense to ask for suggestions in mom groups or social networks.
How do I know if a babysitter is good for me?
Different nannies have different advantages. Some can be called educators. Such nannies are entirely focused on the baby, playing with them, entertaining them, and conducting educational activities. Another type of babysitter is the nanny-housekeeper. They are usually limited to basic care (feeding, putting to bed, and changing diapers), but they are capable of cleaning and washing dishes. Consider what is most important to you; this will make the decision easier.
Of course, the nanny's personal qualities are important. If you are uncomfortable communicating with a particular candidate, do not invite them to work.
You can learn a lot from a trial day. Ask the babysitter to work while you're around for a couple of hours. Watch how the babysitter handles the child. Pay close attention: does she look tense or calm? Paying attention or not? Would you say that her voice sounds soft? Is there tenderness in her voice? Is she confident in herself when the baby cries?
What should you talk about with a babysitter?
The schedule that the baby normally follows;
Whether it is okay to take the baby outside;
How to respond if someone rings the doorbell;
Whether the child needs medication. If so, when and how;
What devices can a babysitter use in the house, and which ones she can't;
How to get in touch with you and who to call if you're not available.
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