Don't rely on spontaneity, take matters into your own hands!
More than a third of women are dissatisfied with their sex life in the first six months after giving birth [1]. And there are valid reasons for this, like physical and emotional discomfort [2], and fatigue. However, if desire doesn't come naturally, it's no reason to be upset. You can create special moments to help passion and romance reappear.
Touch each other more
Touch helps establish a connection at the most basic level. Hugs and hand-holding are actions that are easily incorporated into your everyday activities.
Add tenderness to everyday conversations
When you ask your partner to do something around the house, add a casual "I love you" or "I'm so happy we have each other". Thank your partner when they do something for you, and remember to say good night and good morning. These small gestures strengthen your bond and remind you of your love for one another.
Identify what turns you on!
Talk about what you find most attractive in your partner. In what environment is this expressed most vividly? Try to replicate these conditions more often.
Schedule sex
It may not sound romantic, but it's effective. Anticipation of pleasure makes the body produce the neurotransmitter dopamine, which significantly increases motivation for intimacy [3]. So there is a great chance that sex will be as hot as before!
