In the first trimester, your body appears to have changed very little and your sexual activity won’t suffer from it. But once your belly grows, you may find it necessary to change up your usual sex positions. So, let’s talk about it.
Will the baby feel anything if the sex is intense or my partner is on top?
The baby is well protected by the uterine muscles and amniotic fluid. If you do not feel pain, then everything is fine with the baby. However, it is best to avoid experimenting with any new positions that could be painful.
Which positions and types of sex should we avoid?
Avoid positions where you lay on your stomach.
Just like it’s uncomfortable to sleep on your back after 30 weeks, the traditional missionary position after the 30th week is also a good one to avoid. Your growing uterus can put pressure on the large vessels in the abdomen, making breathing and circulation difficult.
Anal sex. Even without this type of intercourse, anal fissures and hemorrhoids can develop during the second and third trimesters [1]. Damage to the mucous membranes and a combination of anal and vaginal sex can lead to the development of an inflammatory process that can include the vagina. That can lead to infection of the amniotic fluid, which could, in turn, lead to preterm labor [2]. In addition, anal sex during pregnancy increases the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) [3]. Some STIs can transfer to the baby during delivery.
Some STIs can transfer to the baby during delivery.
What are the safest positions?
Positions that put little pressure on the abdomen and don’t involve deep penetration are best during the second and third trimesters. You can experiment with new configurations. Studies show that for many couples, pregnancy is often the first impetus for sexual experimentation [4]. Here are some popular positions:
Spooning. Lay on your side with your partner behind you.
Doggy style. Relieves the load from your lower back.
Cowgirl. Allows you to choose a comfortable penetration angle and pace, at the same time providing you with some fun physical activity.
Oral sex. The safest option at any time, although it can be technically challenging to reach the 69 position with a large belly.
Should you discuss postures with your doctor?
It’s not necessary to discuss the details with your doctor. Talking with your partner about safe and enjoyable positions is best. You can regulate the intensity and frequency of sexual intercourse depending on your priorities, desires, and well-being.
