More than half of new moms experience physical and emotional fatigue for at least six months after the baby is born. They are especially exhausted during that first month [1]. It is very important to take a rest from time to time. Not only do you deserve it, but it’ll restore the energy and strength you need to care for your baby [2].
What should I do if I don't have even one minute to myself?
Look at your to-do list and the lofty goals you have for yourself. Do you expect perfection?
It's fine if the house is messy for a while. You can deal with it once your life has stabilized. Really. And you can lean on your partner! Ask for what you need, share the burden, and invite family and close friends to support you during this difficult time. Leave the baby with your partner (or someone else) and take a bath. Practice breathing exercises or guided meditation. Allow yourself half an hour. What matters is that it is a regular, set time [2].
While feeding the baby, you can also enjoy yourself by watching your preferred TV show or listening to a podcast. It won't harm the infant and will divert your attention to something enjoyable [3].
Why does the very thought of self-care make me feel so selfish?
This is pretty common. Many mothers have the tendency to believe that their new baby should take up their entire life.Sometimes we make the error of forgetting that we are only human and that we have needs of our own, and that those needs are real!
Every time you feel like you can't find time for yourself, take a deep breath and say, "When I rest, baby has a better mom," as you release the breath. As you take a deep breath, feel your chest expand as if you were recharging a battery, and speak the words aloud. It will help you overcome your false sense of guilt [2].
Being a decent mother doesn't require you to break down. Falling apart actually translates to not being your best. Make time for yourself, it will benefit you and your child alike.
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