When you have a newborn at home, you want to make it as safe as possible. However, mothers can experience excessive anxiety. Some new mothers can't stop worrying and always feel like something is threatening their babies: what if the baby suffocates while sleeping? Will baby contract a terrible infection? Will they drown when they swim? Will someone steal them? Mom may understand intellectually that these scenarios are unlikely, but a haunting voice persists in asking: "What if?..." [1].
Is this normal?
Childbirth and the early weeks with a baby in your arms are stressful. In popular culture, images of motherhood frequently depict a woman who effortlessly and naturally adapts to her new role. This is not the case; it takes time and effort to adjust to all of a newborn's needs. Furthermore, all of this occurs against the backdrop of numerous household responsibilities and insomnia. Anxiety is a normal physiological response to such difficult conditions [2].
Is there a way to cope with anxiety?
When a disturbing thought occurs, try to be critical of it. Consider a thought not as a bad omen, but as one of many possibilities for how events will unfold.
Attempting to conjure up a thunderstorm with your mind is highly unlikely to yield any results. Similarly, there is no reason for a thought about a potential threat to a child's life to be predictive or prophetic. The following thought exercises can help you get used to the idea that your thoughts don't change the real world.
Think of your inner voice as a fairytale creature. Consider a funny little grandpa with a squeaky voice who is constantly grumbling about something. Laughing at the thoughts will reduce their power.
Imagine your thoughts are dinner guests. There are some strange and even arrogant personalities among them. Remember, this is your party, and you can ask them to leave.
How do I know if I have postpartum anxiety?
If you can't get rid of your anxious thoughts, you may have postpartum anxiety. It's a good idea to talk to your healthcare practitioner about getting help so you can enjoy your new motherhood journey [3].
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