How to ask for help
Doesn’t it always seem that friends and relatives call and text just at the very moment you’ve sit down to feed baby, or she’s just fallen asleep? Even though their timing is off, your friends and family want to help. They just need some guidance, so do not hesitate to outsource some of your responsibilities to them. Here’s some ways you can ask for help.
- Make a wishlist and keep adding to it when you think of something you need— from toilet paper to an orthopedic chair. When friends ask, "Do you need anything?" or "What should I bring you?" drop the list into the text message. They are happy to be helpful, and you save time, effort, and possibly even money.
- Make a list of ways people can help with daily tasks. Sometimes, out of politeness, people ask, "How can I help you?" Do not be shy; ask! Prepare food, take a walk with an older child, vacuum. Do not pretend that you do not need anything. If someone doesn’t really want to help, they won’t, but most people will feel grateful that you’ve reached out to them with a real need.
- If someone brings you a meal, divide it into portions and freeze. It’s easier to reheat food in the microwave than to stand by the stove every day.
- Usually, by the age of two months, babies' sleep patterns are more or less adjusted. You can invite a grandparent to take a stroller walk with your sleeping baby. This way you’ll get some time for yourself — sleep, shower, do yoga, your choice. Just don't do the dishes. Your free time is too precious.
- Put your phone on silent mode. You have the right to answer calls and messages when you have the time and are in the mood.
