In the later stages, expectant mothers have to rethink even the simplest things. Walking down stairs, tying your shoelaces, going to the toilet — all of these take more thought than they used to. It may seem that you have been placed in some strange, alien body — bulky, awkward, slow.
When your body undergoes so many changes, it’s easy to feel like a stranger in your own body. For some, this can lead to a dissatisfied self-image or despondency. Yet we need to remember our bodies are performing a miracle — creating a new life. Let’s thank our bodies for the amazing work it’s doing.
Is it okay to be dissatisfied with your own body?
Yes. Your psyche has become accustomed to a certain image of the body, and now it has changed so much that sometimes you do not even recognize yourself in the mirror. It may seem like you have been replaced by a stranger [1].
Irritation and nervousness can also be caused by the fact that you cannot control everything. Who likes it when they have to cancel an appointment because their legs are swollen? What if you didn't manage to hold in gas in public? This happens — and it's embarrassing.
Some say it's bad to complain because pregnancy is a gift from heaven
There is no contradiction here. You may be immensely grateful for the experience of motherhood, but this does not negate the fact that being pregnant is physically difficult. There’s no need to feel ashamed about telling your loved ones about your concerns [1].
Perhaps you are embarrassed to say that, for example, it is difficult for you to meet a friend for a date in a cafe because of hemorrhoids. But this is true! Why come up with excuses that could also complicate your friendship. Most likely, loved ones will understand you and sympathize.
How to get used to the new body yourself?
First of all, you need to understand that you do not have to adore your current body at all. Yes, some people enjoy the new roundness. But feeling uncomfortable is also normal.
Try to shift the focus from the form to the content. Yes, your body shape has changed, but it’s performing incredible feats. Read about how your body protects and helps your baby grow. Learn about how your body helps your baby develop in the womb. Thank the body for its work.
Try experimenting with clothes. Many moms-to-be are upset that they can no longer wear their favorite outfits. And a lot of maternity clothes seem unfashionable. Try to find a compromise. There is no need to drastically change your wardrobe and completely switch to "mother" things. Find clothes that match your style but fit your current size. This way you will save an important part of yourself [1].
