It is difficult to work 100% during pregnancy, so sooner or later you will have to tell your management and colleagues about your pregnancy.
U.S. labor law protects pregnant women, but it is clear that relationships at work are not limited to laws and job descriptions. Pregnancy can be a sensitive topic for an employer.
When is the best time to talk about pregnancy?
It all depends on the atmosphere of your team and corporate culture. If you know that at work they are supportive of pregnancy, then you can announce your news at the end of the first trimester. When you are not sure about the reaction of your superiors and colleagues, it may be better to wait.
In any case, it is best not to start this conversation until you have passed the first screening. On the other hand, don't wait too long: try to break the news before your belly becomes noticeable. Otherwise, if you have a gossipy crew at work they may start discussing the possibilities behind your back — this is always unpleasant [1].
Who should be the first to know - the boss or colleagues?
It’s a good idea to tell your boss first to avoid her learning about it from another colleague.
Of course, there are different situations. You may decide not to wait to tell your boss about your pregnancy. In that case, you need some help from a colleague if you are not feeling well or have to miss work for a doctor’s appointment [1].
How to tell the boss?
Schedule an appointment in advance — this kind of conversation shouldn't happen on the fly. Write down any items that may need discussion so you don't forget what you want to talk about.
Read your company's benefits and understand labor laws before talking with your boss. During pregnancy, you are entitled to certain benefits so it's important to know what they are. Remember, there is no need to apologize when you are telling your boss — there is nothing wrong with becoming pregnant.
What if I am not sure if I will return to work after the birth of my child?
It's worth talking about leaving only if you are 100% certain. If in doubt, say you will return. You may feel that this is not fair, but remember when someone is looking for a new job, she doesn’t talk about quitting until she’s secured her new employment. The situation is the same here. A lot of things change after a baby is born — you may or may not want to return to work [1].
What if my boss gets angry?
Unfortunately, this can happen. Try to stay calm. If your manager threatens to fire you, contact the HR department, and if this does not help, contact a lawyer. The law is on your side.
I am afraid I will lose my career or that my colleagues will think less of me if they have to cover some of my work while I am out.
These are natural worries and you are not alone in this. But at work, as in life in general, it is impossible to please everyone. Pregnancy and motherhood are your choices, you have every right to it.
Many women are afraid that they will be judged at work. But often such a reaction is a reflection of people's own problems and painful experiences. Stay true to yourself and don’t worry about what others think [1].
