You’ve chosen a nanny or babysitter. Now, how do you prepare your baby for staying with someone else and ensure everyone is comfortable?
Arrange a transition period
Your baby may adjust quickly to the nanny, but separation can be tough. Start with the nanny while you're still at home. Let her watch you feed, change, and put the baby to bed. Gradually let her take over, like changing diapers while you soothe the baby or rocking the baby to sleep while you sing [1].
By day 4-5, she should handle tasks with you nearby. If all goes well, leave the baby with the nanny for short periods, gradually increasing the time. Stay close by to comfort the baby if needed.
Leaving for longer periods
Don't leave while your baby is sleeping, as this can be frightening. Instead, say goodbye directly: “Bye, see you later.” Your baby may cry at first, but this routine will become a reassuring ritual over time. They will learn that mom always comes back, creating a sense of stability.
Avoiding conflicts with your nanny
Clearly communicate your expectations from the start, sharing your preferences for baby care and play, and what is unacceptable. Emphasize good communication, including questions and feedback. Let her know you're open to discussing any concerns.
Remember, the nanny may have her own methods. If she resists your recommendations, ask why. There might be a valid reason for her approach. Try to understand her perspective and compromise when reasonable [2].
Dealing with jealousy
Feeling jealous of the nanny is normal. Sometimes the nanny might be better at calming the baby, but this doesn't mean your baby loves you less—they're just used to another person. When the nanny leaves, spend quality time with your baby. Hold, hug, and talk gently to them. The more time you spend together, the stronger your bond will be.
If your baby remains distant, watch how the nanny responds to their needs. Understanding and responding to your baby's signals is key [2].
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