If you do not have a partner, you may be worried that your baby will grow up lacking some stability. But this is not true. A baby’s environment and the people they grow up with is important, but it does not require a traditional family structure.
In a study conducted in 2017 by the European Society for Human Reproduction and Embryology, scientists found that problems arise not from the absence of a father, but because of a negative attitude held by parents. If a loving and supportive atmosphere is created in a single-parent family, then a child will develop healthy behaviors and emotions. The study found that children from single-parent families have the same level of stress as two-parent households [1]. A British study found that happiness is experienced in the same amounts in single- and two-parent households. The composition of the family does not affect a child’s wellbeing [2].
How can I create a supportive environment for my child?
While there are extra challenges to being a single parent, you do not have to be alone. The best way to cope with the difficulties being a single parent is to build a supportive network of friends and relatives who are investing in the development of you and your child [1]. This is true of two-parent households: Everyone needs a circle of people who are ready to help.
You don’t have to go it alone. Don’t be afraid to ask your family and friends for help around the house. Find groups of single moms on the Internet. Do not hesitate to ask for advice and share about the difficulties you are facing. Select a group of people who are in a similar situation and are responsive, friendly and supportive. These acquaintances can lead to strong friendships [3].
How do I manage the day-to-day task?
In the beginning it is difficult to schedule your day as baby’s needs are unpredictable. Take the time you do get during naps or while your mother is holding baby to take care of yourself.
Something as simple as a five-minute mediation, or taking a short walk around the block, or taking a shower will help you restore your strength and help you feel more rested. It will help you maintain focus and awareness, so when you are with your baby, you can be in the moment and attentive.
It is equally important to let go of unrealistic expectations. Do not blame yourself if the house is a mess or the dishes are not washed. It’s good and reasonable to let some things go in service of taking care of your new baby!
